About two years ago I read a sadden survey about the numbers of people who hate their jobs.
Can you guess? 10%? 40%?
You`re wrong. In that survey, more than 92% of people said they hated their jobs. I was once among this number. I don`t know maybe you to have experienced a situation where you hate going to a particular job, yet, you just must go every morning (Monday-Friday).
It`s horrible. There are only few things in the world as horrible as spending 8 hours every day doing tasks you hate doing.
But why do people continue doing the very jobs they hate?
We can say because they have to earn a living.
Yes, people have to earn a living and sustain their family.
We can say because there is no other alternative.
Maybe that`s true, at least for most people in our world today.
The real reason why people cannot leave the work they hate is because we`re living in a world (especially Africa continent) where most people were never trained how to create their own lives.
Right from when an African child is in secondary school, till when he finish schooling, he is likely following his parents` wish, societal opinion or whatever is available in the way he decides which course to study, how to live and what to achieve with his life.
In general, most of us were never trained to create a kind of life we desire. Instead, we were brought up to accept norms, status-quo and whatever is available.
Don`t let me sound as if it`s easy to do what I am advocating. It`s not. But as a person, my philosophy about life is that, it`s better to die in the war front than to be a civilian.
It`s better to die trying to create the kind of life you love than to keep on living the kind of life you hate.
I want to say this because I have experienced it firsthand. A beggar is better than someone who is doing the job he hates (or maybe they are both the same)
The reason is this.
We spend major part of our life working or thinking about our job.
Some people spend 10-12 hours every day, preparing for, doing and thinking about their jobs. How do people who hate their jobs feel? Sad. Horrible. Frustrated… all this for many hours every Monday-Friday.
You deserve more from life than to remain unhappy for 3o years.
But what can you do?
WARNING; none of these things I am about to recommend is easy. That`s the reason why most people cannot do them.
Can you do them? Yes, if you`re willing to.
First, decide how you want to live your life to enjoy it best.
The first thing every man/woman should do in the journey toward fulfillment is to sit down and decide the kind of life he/she wants to live. How do you want your life to look like? What job or profession do you think will make you the happy person you want to be?
How do you want your ideal working week to look like?
You have to first decide this or else you wouldn`t have a direction at which you`re heading to.
Some years back I concluded that I cannot be a happy man if I have to spend 30 years working for someone else (even if I’m receiving #1 million every month). The kind of life I want to live will not just work with being an employee.
I`m not lazy, but I hate to receive instructions and to be mandated to do things I don`t want to do.
I dreamed of a profession that will allow me to wake up anytime I want (if at all I will have to work till 10pm). I wanted a career path that will allow me to abandon work on Tuesday if I have headache or malaria.
I want to work hard, but I hate doing what I don`t have passion for.
I have not arrived. I have not gotten to that dream land as at the time of writing this, but I am halfway. Sit down and decide what your ideal life is.
Second, come up with the price you have to pay to get to that level you desire.
Crossing from where you are to where you want to be will not be as easy as ABC (that`s the truth). There is a price to be paid to get to your promised land. You may be poorer than you are now, for sometimes. You may work harder. You may have the need to form a new habit (such as reading habit). In fact, you may have to lose some friends.
Get your mind running. What and what are the possible challenges you have to overcome.
At this point, you`re not leaving your job. Instead, you`re planning for a better (and much desired) life.
Learn, read and improve your mind.
What you know is what determines where you are. That`s the truth most people don`t know. We are all the product of our knowledge. If you know more valuable things than what you know now, you will automatically move to the next level that matches your level of knowledge.
Last week I was talking with an elder friend about certain business I had earlier worked with and when I was leaving we had to look for someone who is capable of holding my position. It happened that we chose a new person when there are workers who have spent much years there.
When my elder friend asked me why, my answer was, “She (that particular lady who has spent longer years) doesn`t have the skills require”.
You cannot go beyond what you know. If truly you desire to move from where you are today to a new level you desire tomorrow, you have to start your journey by increasing your knowledge.
What is your ideal work life like? Is it a promotion in your present company, job in a better company or business of your own?
What are those things, skills, knowledge or certificate people who are where you dream to be have?
If you have such skills and knowledge as they have, you`re on your way to where they are.
Let`s talk about business. Let`s assume you want to cross from being an employee to being a successful business owner. Where should you start?
A man asked question in a facebook group I belong to yesterday saying, “I wish to become a successful entrepreneur. What can I do now?”
My reply to him was, “become a business student”.
That`s where to start. I have told you many times. If you want to be a medical doctor, the first thing you`ll do is to be trained. You won`t just go to the law court and say you want to practice as a lawyer. You have to be trained.
Even bankers, accountants and very other professionals must be trained.
Only people who want to be entrepreneurs don`t think of being trained. That`s a great error.
Entrepreneurship is tougher than medicine. Quote my words!
You have to start today by acquiring the skills needed to become the kind of person you really want to become. It`s easy to do (if you`re not lazy). Search google. Go to library. Visit bookstore or pick one of these powerful business trainings.
Believe me, you cannot remain in level 3 if truly you have the knowledge and skills to operate at level 9.
Third, be a slave today so as to be a king tomorrow.
For Israelite to cross from Egypt (the land of slavery) to Canna (the land of freedom), they had to pass through much pains than they had in the land of slavery.
Freedom is not free.
For Nigeria to gain independence, there has to be struggles, war of word and pretest. For South Africa to be liberated from racism, someone had to fight, Mandela had to spend 27 years in prison.
For America to have a racism free country, someone had to be a fighter, some lives had to be lost, and Martin Luther had to lose his life at the prime age of 35.
Freedom is never free. You have to fight to be free.
If you truly want to be free tomorrow, you have to be willing to be a slave today.
You have to be willing to do whatever (legal and moral) it requires to leave where you are to where you want to be.
Don`t mind gossips. You`re better than them.
If you acquire the needed skills and are willing to pay the price to migrate to where you desire, nobody will tell you when the time comes to take the needed action.
Knowledge is like weapon. If you have it with you, you`ll dare things. For instance if a man has gun with him, he could go to places unsafe to most people.
But as you`re going, you will meet some gossips and critics. They will think you`re crazy.
Don`t mind them. You`re better than them.
Ayo Arowolo is one of the rich Nigerians struggled many years ago to travel to the United Kingdom. While there in the UK he was reading a book written by Anthony Robbins. He furiously dropped that book and announced to his host that he was going back to Nigeria.
Everybody thought he was crazy but he had just discovered that what he needed in UK was actually at home.
You cannot do such thing and not be criticized by people around you.
I was criticized because I refused to collect my good certificate from school. I was attacked because I refused to get job, even when I was poor.
Every great mind do things that arouse criticism.
As you`re planning to move to your dream land, you will be criticized by people who truly love you (yes, they love you so much that they don`t want you to pass through the pains that will lead you to the palace)
Decide where you belong.
Learn the new skills that will get you to where you belong.
Be willing to pay the price to get to where you belong.