First, I loved (and still love) setting goals.
Second, I loved (and still love) listen to people I wish to be like.
Now I’m grown up, really?
At least, I’m no longer a boy.
Most people remain the same because they don’t do these two things; set goals and listen to people who have achieved what you want to achieve (alone)
I will not talk much about setting goals today because it’s easy to understand.
Let me talk about who to listen to.
You see, there are too many noise in the world and unfortunately, almost everyone has an advice for you.
When you were young, your father had advice for you, your mother, your sister, your brother, even your uncle had an advice for you.
Now that you’re grown up, TV, Movies, Media, interviewees, your lecturers, political leaders and everyone else in-between has an advice for you.
The problem is, unlike when you’re young, the advice people give you when you’re an adult mostly get registered in your mind unconsciously.
And you know something?
Most advice are bad advice
So what is the way out?
Simple, change who you listen to.
If you want to change your life, change who you listen to.
How do you know who to listen to?
Simple; Identify those people who have achieved what you want to achieve and listen to them ONLY.
When I was growing up, I knew I wanted to become an entrepreneur as an adult.
I knew I wanted to build a company, employee people, make money etc.
I also knew that I wanted to become a good Christian and … (something else I won’t tell you today)
I would then go to bookstore and buy books writing by people who have achieved what I wanted to achieve.
I would also go to internet cafe and buy ticket (internet wasn’t common in my small town then).
I would start reading from the likes of Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Robert Kiyosaki, etc.
I love it when these authors tell me the stories of people who have achieved greatness with their lives.
Then, I would tell myself, “if these ones can do it, I can do it”
I later fell in love with the books by Herb Cohen, Brain Sher, etc.
One thing I discovered is that;
The advice these people give me were in absolute contradiction with the advice my father, uncle or anyone I knew in the physical world would give me.
The media, TV, movies, etc too never gave me the right advice.
As you can guess, I immediately earned a name as “stubborn and proud boy who doesn’t listen to advice”.
Let me stop telling you my story.
Let me confront you with the truth.
As long as you keep on listen to what you read in the news (that economy is bad, that Africa is poor etc), as long as you continue believing what movies and social media has to tell you, you have wrong advisers.
People eventually end up being like their advisers.
If (for example) you want to be a successful entrepreneur and your father or lecturer never sold water, well, I’m sorry, you don’t have to listen to your lecturer or father’s advice (about money).
People will call you “arrogant” but it’s ok.
If you want to be an athlete and your sister has never ran a mile, well, don’t ever try to listen to her about running.
If you want to succeed in life (as a rule), you must learn how to neglect the “facts” and woes in the news, movies and TV.
When you wake up in the morning, after your necessary spiritual devotion, make sure the next thing you do is to listen to someone who has achieved what you wish to achieve or someone who will tell you about him.
You can do this by reading a book, watching a YouTube video or listening to an audio book.
Stop listen to negative people.
Stop listening to people who have not done what you wish to do.
Let them call you “arrogant” if they like, don’t take advice from people who want you to believe the economy is bad or that you can’t go far as Africa.
If you forget everything in this my long Epistle, don’t forget;
You’ll end up just like your advisers